Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Random September Update

I'll tell you, there is absolutely nothing exciting about this post.  I just haven't written in a while and figured I should.  Our laptop needs a new power cord, and it's not exactly on the top of the financial priority list, so I have to type on our desktop which isn't the most comfortable. (such hardships, I know!)  Anyhow, we've been working on getting our little Mr. 1 year old to sleep better, which has meant that I've been sleeping better too (sometimes) but am still in need of a good many hours to reach my quota from a year of deprivation.  I'm back taking my adrenal support vitamins too, as I could feel myself back into the lacking area there as well.  Hopefully we'll get back on track here again! (I usually write my blog posts after everyone is in bed for the night, but sleep has been calling me first lately)

We started school again this fall, and are trying to figure out what schedule works the best.  The kids think their best in the morning, but also need to be active in the morning (aka. working) or else they're bored and fighting all afternoon and evening.  We also should be outside in the morning when the weather is so nice, as it has been getting almost hot in the afternoon.  And, I need to get my work done in the morning too.  So, I've been juggling different schedules to see what works best when for this stage of life.  Also, trying to get them to realize that playing isn't all there is to do each day, and that kids need to learn math and phonics, boring as it may seem sometimes.  I try to make it fun and break it up, but sometimes they also just need to buckle down and do it!  ( I told them Dad doesn't exactly like to get up at 0500 every morning for work, and doesn't love all the things he does in a day but still has to do it.  And my job isn't exactly a bed of roses much of the time either, but I still have to do it- not sure if they get the concept though!)  I guess that's what we get after a summer of fun times and lack of work altogether (pretty much so for them, that's for sure).

Greg also hurt his back pretty bad (twice) and has been out of commission for a good amount of time this past month.  Hopefully he's on the mend, but it's been a bit nerve wracking and frustrating for him (and me) not knowing what would/could happen (could he work? would it get better? how long?) in the future.  So far he's missed minimal work, but has to be really careful to lift correctly and stretch properly and go to the chiropractor when needed.  He also is supposed to exercise it a great deal and also rest it a great deal, so finding that balance is difficult.

My cousin's daughters were also in a serious car accident, which threw my head in a whirl for a while there.  The whole week after it happened I was only able to think about them and pray for them.  We were supposed to go to a homeschool workshop and I could barely get food on the table that week.  Thankfully the girls are recovering slowly (the younger girl is now just coming out of her coma, a month later), but it's taken a toll on me (and our whole family) emotionally and spiritually.  Maybe even more so than I had realized.  Greg's Papa is also going downhill health-wise, and he (Greg) has been having a hard time being away from him at this time.  Greg was their first grandchild and has had some pretty special treatment from his grandparents over the years. 

Well, I should get off to bed before my littlest waker-upper wakes me up for the first time tonight.  We've been having sleep issues with 3/4 kids (all the boys) these days so I'm really puzzled what that's all about.  Not sure what's causing it, and not sure what to do about it either.  So, I'll just let them sleep out on the couch if that's what makes them sleep! (well, not the baby...but you know what I mean)

Monday, September 3, 2012

Luke turns 7

It's long overdue, but Luke turned 7 in May.  I've been hesitant to write because I just haven't known what to say.  I just love this boy so dearly, and it seems like often I take it for granted how blessed we are to have such a son.  I won't say that he's "amazing, smart, perfect and wonderful" like so many parents think their kids are.  He's human just like the rest of us, but both Greg and I know we are truly blessed by God to have him in our family.

This boy is our biggest train lover.  From the time he was about 18 months (when he started using a Thomas blanket given to him as a baby gift), he's loved trains.  Anytime, anywhere, any kind.  We've been on a few different ones, and he's thrilled each time we go.  For his birthday, he wanted to go again, so we went on the Mt. Rainier Scenic Railroad, which was quite fun.  I keep thinking he'll outgrow his love and move on to other interests, but it hasn't happened yet!  He also wanted a Thomas cake, which I made and then the kids replaced Thomas with Toby, as Toby is number 7 (since Luke was turning 7).

Luke also loves to read and is currently reading a Calvin and Hobbes that Dad pulled off the shelf for him.  I keep hearing giggling from the corner where he is.  He also happens to have one of the best giggles I've ever heard, which I love to hear.  Last summer in swimming lessons he couldn't do anything the teacher asked, as he was giggling too much.  This summer went much better and he's becoming a good swimmer.

Here's another picture of him in Canada with Grandpa.  He had lots of questions about the farm and loved riding on the tractor, 4-wheeler and bale truck, as well as checking on the cows.  He tried milking the cow over at his aunt and uncle's house, which was harder than he thought!


This summer he was also asked to be a ring bearer in a wedding, to which he obliged.  Seeing him in his tux made me think of him when he gets bigger and wears one at his graduation or something, and it was a little hard on a mommy's heart!  He took it all in stride and just performed his duties as ordered  (which was more keeping an eye on little sis who was the flower girl!)
He's (almost) always willing to help out whenever needed, and we're looking forward to starting 2nd grade tomorrow.  He loves reading and math, so hopefully we can just scoot right along with lessons.  We're starting a formal curriculum this year, so we'll have to just see how it goes!  He loves building "projects" and has designed a few things that he and Dad have put together, the latest which was a Lightening McQueen car that fits inside our wagon so that the kids can tow each other around in it.  It works rather well for a 7 year old's design!

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Above Rubies article "God Messed With Our Plans"



Here's an article that I've been wanting to share for a while.  It was in the Above Rubies magazine a while back (Issue 83) and I keep hoping they'd put it on their website but they haven't yet.  So, I "scanned" it and am going to post it here.  This girl's testimony is amazing, and is what really made me reevaluate my own convictions (or lack thereof) and research the topic further. (If you can't read it, you should be able to click on each "picture" to enlarge it.)
 
"This wasn't about us anymore or what we thought we could handle or afford"

Sunday, June 17, 2012

Kids clothing organizing, sorting and filing

Here's the system I use for my kids clothing.  Other moms likely use something similar, and that's fine but this works well for us.  It's from Amy Dacyczyn's The Tightwad Gazette.  Amy and her family had a goal of living in an old farmhouse, and the only way to do it was to tighten their belts verrry tight!  They accomplished the goal and she wrote a newsletter about their journey, as well as taking in advice from others on frugal living.  It has been compiled into a book which is great easy reading!  Another blogger has summed up much of what she writes about, so that's what I'm including here.  Take note that this book was written in the late 1990's so clothing prices may have gone up slightly. (I don't pay more than 0.50 for clothing, unless it's a nice coat or shoes that I need right away)

"PAGE 270 – THE USED-CLOTHING FILING SYSTEM

Except for sneakers, socks and some underwear, Amy has never purchased new clothing for any of her children. Remember that Amy has 6 children at the time of the writing of this book, so she has about 30 same sized boxes in her attic that have clothes stored in them.


The boxes are marked with the age of the child and the sex. So using her system 5YG – means 5 year old girl; 12YB – 12 year old boy; Trainage – obviously these are the potty training pants and underwear.


Amy collects clothes from relatives that are years older than her oldest child and she stores them away. She is given a lot of hand me downs, so she sorts them by age and sex for future use. When she buys yard sale clothes she will buy only a couple years older than the oldest child. She doesn’t buy too far in advanced because free hand me downs might come along in the meantime.


Also, she doesn’t wait to shop for clothes 6 months before she needs them as she might not be able to find what she needs.


Amy stores the clothes in same size boxes so she can gauge the amount of clothes she has. Amy’s goal is not to have too many clothes for one size, but a “just good enough amount.” Amy never turns down hand me downs from anyone. She sorts through them and keeps everything, just in case she will need them all. Amy doesn’t go through to repair or remove stains at this time as she may be given some clothes in the same size in better shape sometime in the future.


Amy will buy things very far in advance if she is at a yard sale and they have brand new shoes or a new coat on sale. She also tries to choose items that will be in style for a few years.


Book 3, Page 6 – THE KIDS’ CLOTHING INVENTORY


Amy spent about $50 annually to dress her six kids with an average of $8.33 per kid. This includes winter outerwear. Socks and underwear were purchased new. Many clothing items were given to their family by their relatives and many items were purchased used.


Amy kept an inventory sheet on each kid as to what clothes they wore and the sizes along with what clothes that child had in their closet to wear. So for one child she wrote down the number of winter shirts and the sizes. This was to ensure that gaps and surpluses don’t occur. For example, one child ran short on shoes so she knew that in the future she needed to make sure they had enough shoes for the year.


Since manufacturers differ in their sizes, Amy started to measure the clothing to make sure that she would be getting the correct sizes at garage sales. For example, she would measure inseams and also would measure shoes for the correct size. Then when an item was needed she would take a tape measure along with her to a garage sale and it was easy to measure and know that pants and shoes would fit her child.


I think this is a good idea from the standpoint of clothing does shrink after washing, so you may look at an article at a garage sale and think that you are buying the correct size only to find out the item had done some shrinking. Measuring ensures a good fit.


Amy kept a list of the sizes along with the measurements that went with that size so she could make sure the clothing would fit. For example size 2 in pants measures to be an 8 ½” waist (measured in the front) and 11 ½ inch inseam.


Even if you didn’t keep a list of the sizes, but only took an inventory of your children’s clothing you would be able to see if they needed any “new” clothing for a season. Then you would be able to go ahead and buy those items before they were needed as compared to going to a garage sale and buying everything “willy nilly”. Having a plan to buy only what is needed and nothing beyond that will save you money, even at garage sales. Also just because items are cheaper at a garage sale doesn’t mean that you buy your child 10 dresses, 15 pairs of pants and 25 shirts. Money is money so only buy what your child needs.


Having a clothing inventory for every member of the family would be a good idea too. Think of the money you will save by not going out and buying extra items when you aren’t sure if you really need them or not."


Here's my chart, my apologies for it's sideways presentation.
I keep my chart in my purse and highlight it once a category is filled.  Then I know at a glance what I need at each sale.  The chart also helps so that you know how many hand-me-downs to keep and how many to bless others with.  When deciding numbers on your chart, take into account the season, the age of the child (potty training toddlers need more clothes than big kids), and how often you do laundry.  I wash once a week, so usually have 1 top for each day of the week (5-6 play, 1-2 dress shirts in both long and short sleeves for example).

I also use large ziploc bags for storage, since it takes up less space in our house.  The only place I have to store kids clothes is under their bed, which fits the bags better than boxes do.  As I get new clothes for gifts, etc. (on boy #3 now)  I get rid of any that are worn out or that aren't worn much.  This way the stack never gets too high.

Another thing that is helpful is to keep a box/bag of hand-me-downs that my own kids have outgrown so that I only have to sort and take out clothes seasonally.  Then I sort whatever is in the "too small" box and put it in the appropriate bag at the season change instead of regularly.  Otherwise I'd be digging in 4 "too big" bags and putting away in 4 "too small" bags on a continual basis.

Monday, June 11, 2012

Learning the 5 Love Languages

Recently my husband and I were discussing how some people love to give (and receive) gifts, and for some of us it's nice, but not such a big deal.  We were pondering how to reciprocate to those of our friends and family without shortchanging our own immediate family.  Have you ever been in that situation?  Right now we have 19 nieces and nephews and 4 of our own children.  It's impossible to get gifts for every birthday and Christmas financially, and logistically (not to mention in-laws, out-laws and just plain family)  Add in close friends and you're getting into some pretty high dollars, time spent shopping and such.  

I then remembered that a friend had lent me the 5 Love Languages book for children (haven't read it yet, as my reading time is still quite limited) but it got me to thinking about finding out my own "language".   We found the quizzes online http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/personal-profiles/?profiletype=wives and learned alot.   I am a "quality time" person.  There is nothing I like better than a day spent with those I love.  My favorite days are Saturdays where we go out for breakfast (or have it at home), run errands, fix stuff around home and such.  This reaffirmed why I love just spending time with my husband and kids.  It fills "the cockels of my heart" (to quote my mother-in-law) to just do fun or boring things with them.  I love visiting with my husband as we drive somewhere (as I sip coffee, trying not to spill since I prefer a coffee cup to a travel mug), or yesterday we took the bikes down to the park for a ride (yep, heart overflowing!)

My husband on the other hand is a "words of affirmation" type of guy.  He loves hearing that I love him, and he tells me often all the good things he loves about me.  He is the first to compliment people on whatever it may be, and also likes it when others do that for him.

Anyhow, since learning this, we've been trying to figure out how to "speak" the love languages to those who may differ from us.  There's also "gift givers/receivers", "physical affection", and "acts of service" (father-in-law?)  Although we all fall into several categories, knowing our main one and the main one(s) of those close to us can really help us feel their love and help us to show our love to them.   I'll let you know when I actually read the book what I find out about children!

So what's your love language?  I'd love to know!

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

New update on "Nuture and Admonition"

Just to let you know, I have finally updated my homeschool blog for the year.  We're finishing off first grade and ready for second (and a kindergartener!) next fall! 
http://nurtureandadmonition.blogspot.com/

Wonderful, amazing, marvelous coconut oil


OK, so I've known for a while that coconut oil is good stuff.  I just didn't know how wonderful, or I would have bought some eons ago and started using it.  In an attempt to get rid of my final "baby weight" I looked into it again.  Amazing stuff!  This is good for pretty much everything externally and internally!  Here's a list I found of some of it's qualities.  I highlighted the ones that I think are important in our life, but the rest are great too, and may be priorities in your life.(Amy~check out for Cystic Fibrosis)

  • "Kills viruses that cause influenza, herpes, measles, hepatitis C, SARS, AIDS, and other illnesses.
  • Kills bacteria that cause ulcers, throat infections, urinary tract infections, gum disease and cavities, pneumonia, and gonorrhea, and other diseases.
  • Kills fungi and yeasts that cause candidiasis, ringworm, athlete's foot, thrush, diaper rash, and other infections.
  • Expels or kills tapeworms, lice, giardia, and other parasites.
  • Provides a nutritional source of quick energy.
  • Boosts energy and endurance, enhancing physical and athletic performance.
  • Improves digestion and absorption of other nutrients including vitamins, minerals, and amino acids.
  • Improves insulin secretion and utilization of blood glucose. (regulates blood sugar)
  • Relieves stress on pancreas and enzyme systems of the body.
  • Reduces symptoms associated with pancreatitis.
  • Helps relieve symptoms and reduce health risks associated with diabetes.
  • Reduces problems associated with malabsorption syndrome and cystic fibrosis.
  • Improves calcium and magnesium absorption and supports the development of strong bones and teeth.
  • Helps protect against osteoporosis.
  • Helps relieve symptoms associated with gallbladder disease.
  • Relieves symptoms associated with Crohn's disease, ulcerative colitis, and stomach ulcers.
  • Improves digestion and bowel function.
  • Relieves pain and irritation caused by hemorrhoids.
  • Reduces inflammation.
  • Supports tissue healing and repair.
  • Supports and aids immune system function.
  • Helps protect the body from breast, colon, and other cancers.
  • Is heart healthy; improves cholesterol ratio reducing risk of heart disease.
  • Protects arteries from injury that causes atherosclerosis and thus protects against heart disease.
  • Helps prevent periodontal disease and tooth decay.
  • Functions as a protective antioxidant.
  • Helps to protect the body from harmful free radicals that promote premature aging and degenerative disease.
  • Does not deplete the body's antioxidant reserves like other oils do.
  • Improves utilization of essential fatty acids and protects them from oxidation.
  • Helps relieve symptoms associated with chronic fatigue syndrome.
  • Relieves symptoms associated with benign prostatic hyperplasia (prostate enlargement).
  • Reduces epileptic seizures.
  • Helps protect against kidney disease and bladder infections.
  • Dissolves kidney stones.
  • Helps prevent liver disease.
  • Is lower in calories than all other fats.
  • Supports thyroid function.
  • Promotes loss of excess weight by increasing metabolic rate.
  • Is utilized by the body to produce energy in preference to being stored as body fat like other dietary fats.
  • Helps prevent obesity and overweight problems.
  • Applied topically helps to form a chemical barrier on the skin to ward of infection.
  • Reduces symptoms associated the psoriasis, eczema, and dermatitis.
  • Supports the natural chemical balance of the skin.
  • Softens skin and helps relieve dryness and flaking.
  • Prevents wrinkles, sagging skin, and age spots.
  • Promotes healthy looking hair and complexion.
  • Provides protection from damaging effects of ultraviolet radiation from the sun.
  • Helps control dandruff.
  • Does not form harmful by-products when heated to normal cooking temperature like other vegetable oils do.
  • Has no harmful or discomforting side effects.
  • Is completely non-toxic to humans.
See Research to read some of the published studies regarding the above mentioned uses of coconut products."


You probably are wondering how a fat can make you lose weight.  Here's a bit of information to get started.
(Boring, I know, but some of us geeks like this kind of information~)

"Fats and oils are technically known as “lipids.” If a lipid is liquid at room temperature, it is called an “oil.” If it is solid, it is called a “fat.” Fats can be found in many food sources in nature: animal meats (such as tallow and lard), marine animals (fish oil), vegetables and fruits (such as olives, avocados, coconuts, etc.), nuts and seeds/legumes (soybeans, sesame seeds, peanuts, cashews, grape seeds, etc.), and whole grains (wheat, rice, etc. – must contain the bran and all components to benefit from all the oils present). A diet rich in natural foods will be a naturally high-fat diet! It is virtually impossible to eliminate fats from our diet. And we wouldn’t want to! Fats are an essential part of life. Without them, we could not survive.  Four vitamins—A, D, E, and K—are soluble in fat; fat carries fat-soluble vitamins.  When fat is removed from a food, many of the fat-soluble compounds are also removed.  Fat also adds satiety to our meal—a feeling of having had enough to eat.  Fat-free and low-fat foods are one of the reasons some people over-eat carbohydrates, which really packs on the pounds. They just don’t feel like they’ve had enough to eat, even when the volume has been more than enough."  http://coconutoil.com/coconut-oil-weight-loss/

"Coconut oil can support a healthy weight in other ways as well:

- Coconut oil slows down the digestion of food, which helps you feel fuller after a meal. Many people notice that after adding coconut oil to their diet, they are less prone to snacking.

- Because it slows digestion, coconut oil also helps prevent blood sugar fluctuations after a meal by slowing the rate carbohydrates are broken down into blood glucose.

- The medium-chain fatty acids in coconut oil destroy candida, a condition of yeast overgrowth in the body which triggers symptoms of weight gain, carbohydrate cravings, fatigue and many others. ** Eliminating candida is an important part of achieving permanent weight loss.

- Coconut oil is excellent for detoxification. It cleanses the body of many infirmities, balances the digestive tract and nourishes all cells in the body. These benefits restore your health and pave the way for natural weight loss.

Tips for Using Coconut Oil to Increase Metabolism:

- Start small. If you've never taken coconut oil before, start with one teaspoon a day and slowly work up to 3-6 tablespoons per day. This will help your body adjust to the beneficial effects of coconut oil.
- The kind of coconut oil you choose is very important. Organic, unrefined extra virgin coconut oil is the best choice since it preserves all the natural goodness of the oil, and most harmful pesticides, etc. are stored in fat."

Learn more: http://www.naturalnews.com/026808_oil_coconut.html#ixzz1vvPHO9CM


Here's 160 uses for coconut oil.  (I was going to copy and paste this article, but then realized it would be too huge.  This page also tells you how much is a good dose to take per day for your size.  You can use it for cooking, or just eat it on toast or by itself.  Some people dissolve it in warm water too or add it to a hot beverage (as it melts at 77*F.))

 http://www.hybridrastamama.com/2012/01/160-uses-for-coconut-oil.html


Here's the hows and whys of it all.

"What are saturated fats and why do we need them? 

Saturated fats are semi solid at room temperature and are found in animal products such as meat, poultry, lard, poultry skin, whole milk, cheese, eggs, butter and tropical oils such as coconut and palm oil.

Our body actually needs saturated fats to stay healthy. Why?

1) Saturated fats constitute at least 50% of our cell’s membranes - the phospholipid component of every cell. Saturated fatty acids are what gives our cells structural integrity, so the cell walls are not weak and can protect the inside of the cells.

2) Saturated fatty acids play a vital role in the health of our bones. For calcium to be effectively utilized by the bones, at least 50% of the dietary fats should be saturated.

3) Saturated fatty acids actually lower Lipoprotein (a), a substance in the blood that leads to heart disease, whereas excess consumption of vegetable oils increases it.

4) Saturated fatty acids protect the liver from alcohol and other toxins, including Tylenol, a pain reliever.

5) Saturated fatty acids are needed for the proper utilization of omega-3 essential fatty acids because omega-3’s are better retained in the tissues when the diet is rich in saturated fats (particularly organic virgin coconut oil)

6) Saturated stearic acid found in beef and cocoa, and palmitic acid found in coconut oil are the preferred foods for the heart; which is why the fat around the heart muscle is highly saturated. The heart draws on this reserve of fat in times of stress.

7) Saturated fatty acids such as caprylic acid found abundantly in coconut oil, is anti fungal and helps combat candida (yeast overgrowth that is common in our society).

8) While saturated fats raise both the bad and the good cholesterol, TFA’s as well as excess consumption of omega-6 fatty acids raise the bad Low Density Lipo-protein (LDL) and suppress the good High Density Lipo-protein (HDL) cholesterol, making it even worse.

In conclusion, avoiding TFA’s is a must. There are no tolerance levels. They are serious culprits of degenerative conditions disguised in some of the most tempting foods to date. Avoiding over consumption of polyunsaturated oils (omega-6 fatty acids) such as flax oil and completely avoiding corn, soy, safflower and canola is a great start, as polyunsaturated oils have been shown to contribute to heart disease, inflammation, under-active thyroid and weight gain."

"In contrast, medium chain fatty acids found in coconut oil are absorbed by the gastrointestinal tract (GI tract) with ease, they do not require any pancreatic enzymes to break them down, which means less work for your pancreas. Next, medium chain fatty acids are transported to the portal blood stream, directly to the liver, where they go directly into mitochondria independent of the carnitine palmitoyl transferase, and are immediately oxidized for energy. Medium chain fatty acids from coconut oil do not get packaged into lipoproteins, and do not get transported to a variety of tissues and are not stored as body fat, they go directly to the liver and are metabolized for energy (Life Sciences 62 (14): 1203-1215). The bottom line is that medium chain fatty acids from coconut oil produces almost exclusively energy, whereas, long chain fatty acids found in all other dietary fats produce body fat (and some energy)."
http://www.foundmyfitness.com/coconut-oil-weight-loss/ 

Although coconut oil is no magic silver bullet in the weight loss scheme, it can benefit your life in so many ways, as you can tell.  It's best to buy organic, unrefined (expeller pressed) if you can, but refined will have many benefits too!  Good luck!

Thursday, May 24, 2012

James turns 5


Two days after Elise's birthday, comes James'.  He turned 5 and with that came the notion that he's a big shot, and suddenly he is braver, stronger, more agile than before.  I think his vitamins are helping with that, but now he's able to do more than ever before.  For example, he thought, "now that I'm 5, I should be able to ride my bike with no training wheels".  So, he tried and on the first try just rode off without them.  No falling, no fear, no clue how to stop!  And did just fine (he rode off into the grass to stop).  Then when we took a walk the other day and 7 dogs came flying out of the neighbors yard, he didn't even flinch.  And said, "wasn't I brave with those dogs?"  (a huge improvement from not too long ago when even one measly dog scared the life out of him)

For his birthday, he wanted Snoopy.  For Christmas he got a huge Clifford dog, and has been feeding him bones (Lincoln Logs) and a bowl of water pretty regularly.  He would love to have a real dog, although we're waiting to see what happens with his allergies before we pursue that avenue.  So, instead he wanted a Snoopy dog for his birthday.  Very specifically, a beanbag Snoopy dog.  I was able to find a Beanie Baby one on amazon (my good old friend), which made this little boy pretty happy.  Thus the Snoopy cake.  On his actual birthday, Dad turned out to be sick, so we brought his cake to Sunday School and shared it there.  What a treat!

James is our snuggler.  He loves doting on baby Isaac, and is the first to notice if Isaac is into something he shouldn't be, he will bring him to me when baby is sad, and loves feeding him "puffs" at the table (he gladly sits next to him).  Every night we can expect a visit from James (either at bedtime or in the night) because he needs a cuddle.  And it isn't just James that needs the cuddle.  It's James with his entourage of Clifford, Snoopy, Curious George, Soft Blanket and Dump Truck Blanket.  

He comes up with the most interesting topics to talk about, and always is saying funny things about his observations.  He doesn't miss a thing in the observation category, and reminds me of myself when I was young.  Always figuring stuff out, listening to conversation and learning about the world.  I think he's ready to start reading, as he's sounding out letters and such now.  The other day he asked me, "what does M-i-s-s-i-s-s-i-p-p-i spell?"  We'll be starting kindergarten with him in the fall, so I'll begin teaching him to read then.

The vitamins he is taking are continuing to work, and we've been so happy with our "new" boy.  When I asked him one day how he felt, he said, "Like a million dollars and one or two hundred more!"  Warms my heart!


Elise turns 3

So it seems it's time for our yearly birthday update again.  I have a hard time with my kids getting bigger, and when they all get "older" at once, it's kind of a triple whammy. I should correct myself.  I do love when they become more independent and master new skills but somehow just want them to stay little and cute at the same time.
Typical Elise picture.  Dirty face. Skinned forehead.  Favorite ladybug dress (that was mine when I was her age)  The shoes were likely on the wrong feet too, as per usual!

Now about Elise Meredith.  Since she's our only girl, she has it made in some ways, but in other ways has it harder.  She "rules the roost" so to speak in many ways (we're working on that!) but also ends up the #3 in the "three's a crowd" side of things.  She thinks in her mind that she's 5 or 7 as her brothers are, and they constantly tell her she's not.  And that she knows nothing, or is always wrong.  (She does get her facts mixed up quite regularly, as 3 year olds do.)  We're working on that too!  It seems that all discipline and behavior issues come down to the Golden Rule, don't they?  Whatever the issue is at hand, it is usually due to someone not treating someone else with Christ-like love or the way they would want to be treated.
I love her semi-grin in this one.  Kind of amazed that her birthday did finally come!

Elise loves competition.  She is frequently heard saying, "I'm the winner!" (even if she's not or there was no race) and if another sibling claims the winner title, then she proudly announces, "I'm the next winner!" and if she is not either first or second, then she proudly announces, "I'm the last winner!"  No hint of defeat there.
Care bear cake

She is also in a quandary when it comes to playing.  If she plays with her girl toys, then the boys won't play with her (dolls, Tinkerbell, Strawberry Shortcake); so she has to play alone.  James is now starting to play a bit with her, so that makes it nicer for her.  Otherwise she's stuck playing Holley Shiftwell (from Cars2) or Rosie or Annie (from Thomas the Train) because they're girls.  And you know...girls can't play boy cars or trains.  And vice versa.   (We're working on that too!)  Thankfully the kids mostly play together all day, so it's only occasionally that she plays alone.  She doesn't even know how to play house though, because the kids always play store instead.  Someday...

She also is our little chatterbox.  There is constantly (read: constantly) noise coming out of her mouth.  If it's not talking, it's squealing, laughing, singing, crying, yelling, whining, pouting or some other form of noise.  Baby brother has been woken up from countless naps due to her excessive noise.  Not sure what to do about that.  (I keep white noise on, but the shrill sounds still are louder)   I definitely have more sympathy for those with many girls (my grandparents, for example, with 8).  Their houses must be/have been loud!  I've been meaning to ask my Dad how he tolerated and thrived with 3 of us girls in the house.  (Although I know myself and my younger sister were pretty quiet for the most part).  Her talking is most often delightful.  She comments on her observations and the world around her, and I love to listen to that.  She sings the many songs we've learned in Sunday School and at home (usually with a few wrong words here and there).  She asks questions.  She ponders. 
Talking on the phone to Grandpa Staudinger in her new Tinkerbell pj's.  He calls all his grandkids on their birthday.

The other thing Elise loves to do is to help me in the kitchen.  Unfortunately my cooking has been streamlined alot over the years, and I rarely bake (which is something she could help with), so I don't have many opportunities for her to help.  I do have her wash veggies now, and she loves that.  She likes to "wash" dishes too, which usually ends up a huge mess (with many crying episodes and clothes changes because she got wet).  She loves PlayDoh and making things out of it.

I've had a fun time over the last year, as she's been able to wear a few of the dresses my Mom saved that were mine.  In having a daughter, she has also made me reminisce over my childhood in ways that I haven't done probably since the events happened.  What I liked to do at her age.  How I might have reacted to situations.  For her birthday we were shopping for a gift and it made me think about what I might have wanted for a gift when I turned 3 (not that I can really remember much from that age)  All these memories have surfaced now that I have a daughter.  Recently we got to wear mother/daughter matching aprons that my aunt made for my Mom and I.  That was pretty neat.  I hope our relationship can grow through the years and that she can be a blessing to me, and I to her.

Monday, May 21, 2012

Adrenal Fatigue, in a nutshell

For a while I've wanted to write up about a common but not-very-well-known problem that many people have but it remains undiagnosed or undermined by their Dr.  A couple years ago when I was struggling with depression, this turned out to be the cause.  (You can read about it here if you can't remember)  A friend told me about it, and I am so thankful she did.  I was able to get help and now recognize when I'm getting low on key "ingredients" and know what to do to get my energy and health back.  I'm going to cut and paste from various websites, which I'll list at the bottom for your own reference if you want more information.

Here's some signs and symptoms:  (while having a couple wouldn't necessary diagnose a person, having many of the symptoms would indicate adrenal stress and fatigue).

While you may “look normal” without any obvious signs of degenerative disease, your constant fatigue and lower than lowest energy levels are the dead giveaways for adrenal fatigue syndrome.
Here’s how your other symptoms might play out:
  • Morning fatigue. You don’t really seem to wake up until 10 a.m., even if you’ve been awake since 7 a.m.
  • Afternoon “low” (feelings of sleepiness or clouded thinking) from 2 to 4 p.m.
  • A burst of energy at 6 p.m. when you finally feel better from your afternoon lull
  • Sleepiness around 9p.m. to 10 p.m. However, you resist going to sleep
  • A “second wind” at 11 p.m. that lasts until about 1 a.m., when you finally do go to sleep
  • Cravings for foods high in salt and fats
  • You crave sugar
  • Chronic low blood pressure
  • Sensitivity to cold and feeling chilled
  • Increased PMS or menopausal symptoms
  • Mild depression
  • Mood swings
  • Mental fog
  • Memory problems
  • Lack of energy and feeling rundown
  • A decreased ability to handle stress
  • A decreased ability to recover from illness
  • Muscular weakness
  • Increased food allergies
  • Lightheadedness when getting up from a sitting or lying down position
  • Decreased sex drive
  • Frequent sighing
  • Inability to handle foods high in potassium or carbohydrates unless they’re combined with fats and protein
  • Frequent respiratory infections
Not only are your energy levels affected. Your bodily organs and functions will also reflect diminished efficacy. Your heart and cardiovascular system will be compromised; so will your immune system in fighting off infections; and other systemic functions, as well. In all, adrenal fatigue is a systemic blow to your body.

First, what are your adrenal glands and what do they do?  They are no bigger than a walnut and weigh less than a grape, but each of your two adrenal function glands sits like a tiny pyramid on top of a kidney ("ad" "renal" means "over" the "kidneys"). But don’t let their small size fool you; these powerful little hormone producing glands manufacture and secrete almost 50 different hormones, including steroid hormones such as adrenalin, cortisol, aldosterone, estrogen and testosterone that are absolutely essential to your health and vitality. They not only significantly affect the functioning of every single tissue, organ and gland in your body; they also have important effects on the fluid balance control and blood sugar regulation. They even regulate how you think and feel and determine how effective your immune system functions. Without the hormones the adrenals produce you would die very quickly, and when out of balance the quality of your health and wellbeing becomes severely compromised. Does it not make sense therefore to optimise the functioning of these tiny glands? Of course it does.

What is their purpose?  The adrenal glands keep your body’s reactions to stress in balance so that they are appropriate and not harmful. For example, the protective activity of anti-inflammatory and anti-oxidant adrenal hormones like cortisol helps to minimise negative and allergic reactions, such as swelling and inflammation, to alcohol, drugs, foods, environmental allergens, cancer, infection, and autoimmune disorders (like lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, MS, and the 70 odd other auto-immune conditions). These hormones closely affect the utilisation of carbohydrates and fats, the conversion of fats and proteins into energy, the distribution of stored fat (especially around your waist and at the sides of your face), normal blood sugar regulation (hypoglycemia is one of the problems related to poor adrenal function), and proper cardiovascular and gastrointestinal function.  After mid-life (menopause in women), the adrenal glands gradually become the major source of the sex hormones circulating throughout the body in both men and women. These hormones themselves have a whole host of physical, emotional and psychological effects, from the level of your sex drive to the tendency to gain weight. Every athlete knows that steroids (adrenal hormones) affect muscular strength and stamina.  Even your propensity to develop certain kinds of diseases and your ability to respond to chronic illness is influenced significantly by the adrenal glands. The more chronic the illness, the more critical the adrenal response becomes. You cannot live without your adrenal hormones and, as you can see from this very brief overview, how well you live depends a great deal on how well your adrenal glands function.



How do you know if your adrenals are fatigued or overworked?
  1. Ragland's sign (blood pressure test) -- (Equipment required: Home blood pressure kit) Take your blood pressure while sitting down. Then, stand up and immediately take your blood pressure again. Your systolic (first) number should have raised 8 to 10 mm. If it dropped, you probably have adrenal fatigue.
  2. Pupil dilation exam -- (Equipment required: Flashlight and a mirror) Look into the mirror and shine the flashlight into the pupil of one eye. It should contract. If after 30 seconds, it stays the same or, even worse, dilates, you most likely have adrenal fatigue.
  3. Pain when pressing on adrenal glands (located over kidneys)
Though the ACTH laboratory exam doesn't effectively test for adrenal fatigue, a salivary cortisol test can. You don't need a prescription for the exam. In fact, you can even buy the test online, do it at home and send in your sample to a lab for the results. Dr. Wilson is very positive about the effectiveness of the salivary cortisol test in diagnosing adrenal fatigue. It is so valid and accepted that Plan B Medicare covers it and "they don't want to cover anything they don't have to," he quips. If you don't have insurance, rest assured that this non-invasive test is also very affordable.  Learn more: http://www.naturalnews.com/019339.html#ixzz1vYCY24yH

Causes:  (**another blogger's words, not mine!)

Lifestyle

To quote, "Too much stress. {rant warning}…This seems to be one of the primary factors in adrenal fatigue. One of the problems is the hectic modern lifestyle. The lust for more (stuff, promotions, entertainment, etc., etc.). We are always going, but never asking "what manner of persons ought ye to be?"
Not enough sleep. This is more a product of the lifestyle I just mentioned than anything. Also was made a good point about the high rate of adrenal fatigue among new moms and midwives. One thing that neither of them get is consistent, adequate sleep.
Environmental Toxins. There are many new man made foods, drugs and chemicals that can throw our hormones out of whack. Soy is one that we have been told is really good for us, even though it can cause estrogen dominance and is not very well suited for human consumption. Birth control pills and patches are another unnatural hormone we put into our bodies. Their is chlorine and fluoride in our water – both of which are toxic, and yet we are told that they are necessary. There are hormones added to conventionally raised meat and yes studies have shown that these hormones are then transferred to humans. All this to say their are many environmental reasons that our adrenals and overall hormonal balance have been thrown out of whack.
Nutrition
Excessive carbohydrate intake. I seem to be on a ranting roll today so let’s just talk about the food pyramid. Thankfully it has been toned down a bit, but at one point they were recommending 6-11 servings of grains per day! Did you know that the pyramid was created by a mega-PR firm, Porter Novelli International. Their past clients include McDonald’s and the Snack Food Association. Hmmm… something tells me they aren’t really looking out for our health. Back to the adrenals…Carbohydrates produce excessive amounts of insulin, which the body reads as stress. This then forces the adrenal glands to release cortisol, even though there is no environmental stress to be seen. When this happens over and over again through out the days and weeks our adrenal glands become exhausted. (30 symptoms of adrenal fatigue)
Not enough cholesterol and saturated fat in the diet. Everyone says that saturated fat and cholesterol are bad for us, but did you know that dietary cholesterol is absolutely necessary for the production of hormones? And did you also know that studies have shown that infertility has been "cured" when women switch to full fat dairy instead of fat-free? Amazing, but common sense.  (**Good fats are animal fats, dairy, coconut oils, and olive oils.   Good fats are necessary for immunity and brain health.  Don't avoid them in an attempt to lose weight.  More problems will arise.  Bad fats are soy, corn, anything hydrogenated (margarine).)
Caffeine. Too much caffeine can overstimulate us to the point where we are calling on our adrenals to deal with the stress of a caffeine buzz. I had a brief addiction to coffee last year and have since given it up, but it wasn’t until I quit drinking coffee and then have the occasional cup that I realized how poorly my body responds to it.
Zinc deficiency. Apparently the adrenal gland functioning is dependent on the levels of zinc in our body. There is something called a copper-zinc imbalance which you can read more about here. Zinc deficiency can be caused by many things, but it appears that improperly prepared grains and vegetarianism can be a problem. Consider using sprouted or soaked grains and eating clean, pastured meats.
Lack of Good Salt. Sodium levels are crucial to the functioning of the adrenal glands. But not all salts are created equal. After I had my last baby part of my recovery recommended by my osteopath was to drink salt water made from good sea salt. There are many other things, which I will probably cover next in my recovery plan. For now I will leave you with some really great articles that were part of the basis of my research."  from  http://www.nourishingdays.com/2010/07/adrenal-fatigue-causes/
Treatment
There are many treatments for adrenal fatigue, but here's a few of the main ones.
  • Lying down during your work breaks (preferably at 10 a.m. and again anytime from 3 to 5 p.m.)
  • Sleeping until 9 a.m. as often as possible
  • Laughing
  • Exercising gently (overexerting taxes them more)
  • Minimizing stress
  • Taking negative people out of your life
  • Eating regular meals
  • Chewing well
  • Doing something fun each day
  • Combining unrefined carbohydrates with protein and oils
  • Avoiding junk food
  • Eating five to six servings of vegetables each day
  • Taking calcium and magnesium supplements
  • Adding sea salt to your diet
  • Taking 2,000 to 5,000 milligrams of vitamin C each day
  • Supplementing vitamin E with mixed tocopherols
  • Taking B-complex supplements that are high in B6 and pantothenic acid
  • Adding licorice root extract to your dietary supplement regimen
I used different herbal remedies than these mentioned, and was back to myself in 4 days of treatment (although I needed to stay on them for an extended period of time).  Now I try to get plenty of vitamin B's and C, as well as staying home as much as I can, especially when baby is little.  Recognizing normal from abnormal has been vital now too, so that symptoms don't get out of control.  Feeling crummy (in whatever way, shape or form) is NOT normal.  Pray about it too.  God knows your needs and can supply direction and healing for whatever may be causing illness. 


Friday, May 4, 2012

Products I Love

Sometimes you just have to rave about things that you love.  Today I'm going to do that.  For anyone who cares to listen.  There seems to be so many cheap, worthless items on the market (that obviously were never tested by real people), that when you find something amazing, fun, and affordable (even better if it's all of the above), you just have to say, "Hooray!"

# 1.  Microfiber cloths.  I just love them. There has been quite the rage about other brands that do amazing things, but I experimented with these Quickie brand ones (about $5 from Walmart) and now 1 1/2 years later am still happily using them.  I just washed all the windows in my house (inside and out) with the blue window one, on a sunny day and no streaks.  I do use a squeegee first on the outside just to slop water on and then get the most of it off so that my cloth doesn't get wet as fast.  But, they are amazing.  Save yourself a whole lot of money and just get this kind.  (The added bonus is that your 6 year old can wash the windows without you worrying that he'll squirt himself in the eyes with Windex.) Both of the expensive brands tout that they disinfect as you wipe, but this brand likely does as well since I looked up what exactly "microfiber" is and does.  It's a "grab-nabber" just in the way it's woven.  Quickie is the major supplier for commercial cleaners all over this nation, so I think they're pretty reputable.  I use vinegar as my backup disinfectant, and bleach on rare occasion (by rare I mean once or twice a year) and haven't had a lick of trouble.  The other benefit is that they don't get smelly/yucky as fast as cotton dishcloths do (if you live in wet WA, you know what I mean), so I bought extra (at TJMaxx, but you can get them pretty much anywhere) and use them for dishcloths too.  Yay!

# 2. Rechargeable batteries that actually hold a charge.  These batteries came recommended in a magazine I read (I think it was Reader's Digest), so I decided to check them out for myself.  Since I couldn't find any locally, I went to my good old friend http://www.amazon.com 
There I found some, ordered them and have been extremely happy with them.  Check out how they compare to other rechargeable batteries when you read up on them.  They totally outshine all the other brands.  We use them for countless kids toys, flashlights (that frequently get forgotten while left on), cd players, our camera and many more.  Our camera only held a charge for 3 pictures with the old batteries, and now lasts probably 3-4 weeks with maybe 75-100 pictures per charge.  I will admit our old rechargeables are getting pretty old.  These have a guarantee on their life too (1500 charges, should you be keeping track!)


# 3.  Coconut oil that doesn't break the bank.  In our continual goal of eating healthier, we've been trying to use more coconut oil in our diet.  It's one of those good oils that actually helps you lose weight and is great for healthy living.  It also tastes pretty yummy.  The only problem was that I could not find a cheap source for it.  It was about $7 for a pint at our local grocer (organic).  Then I was at our local Walmart the other day picking up supplies for a couple birthdays, and was going to get some shortening to make the frosting.  Reading the ingredients on the shortening jar was disheartening, and I was thinking about how I could make it "healthier" when low and behold there is some coconut oil sitting right beside the shortening.  I had an "aha" moment, and brought it home with us.  I then looked up a recipe for buttercream frosting online which turned out amazing.  (I took out the orange flavoring and just made it with vanilla, and also ended up adding quite a bit more cream than the recipe called for to get the right consistency.)  The only drawback to frosting with coconut oil is that it turns liquid at 77*F (I think, it says on the jar).  For those of you in a warm climate, your cake will have to stay in the fridge.  Here in the colder areas, it was more trouble getting it warm enough to be spreadable.  But, the bonus to it was that when I went to wash all my decorating bags and tips, the hot water just washed it all away, so soap or scrubbing were hardly needed.  So, overall I was impressed.  Next time I think I'll reduce the sugar called for, as it was very sweet.  I just made granola with it in it and it is very good indeed.  Yum, yum!

# 4.  iPod touch.  I hate to admit this one, since I was rather unsupportive of my husband when he wanted to get one.  But I love that little gadget.  The best app for it is hands down the white noise app.  We have a baby whose preferred method of falling asleep is laying his head on your shoulder while you rock him  in our bathroom with the loud, obnoxious fan going.  So to get asleep when we're not home, or when the big kids are making lots of noise, or in the car...turn it on and almost guaranteed he's asleep in a flash.  We also like the fact that it the iPod uses Wifi so there isn't a monthly fee like a phone would have.  I also am able to read the Bible (no reference checking though :/ ) as well as other things while endlessly (it seems) nursing my baby.   He (baby) gets distracted by the turning of pages while eating, so this is quiet enough.  It's also small enough to hold in one hand when you only have one available.  So yes, reluctantly it's on the list too.  Magazines still trump for bath time reading though, which is where the majority of my reading in this stage of life occurs (thank you, sweet husband).

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Praise Report today

Although it's birthday time again and I should be writing my yearly update on each of the kids, I have to write about what's on my heart today.  As previously mentioned, we've been taking James to a Naturopathic Dr. to see if we can get him feeling better.  To the average lay person, he looks like a normal kid.  But to his Dad and Mom, we know that he's not been the boy God intends for him to be.  He just doesn't feel well much of the time.    Not knowing which Dr. to go to was first part of the dilemma.  Then the Dr.'s that were recommended by friends weren't taking new patients.  Then another one only does homeopathy, which we've already tried with no success.  So, as a Mom I was at a standstill.

Recently James was bravely laying on the couch waiting for his Benadryl to kick in, cool cloth over his eyes so they wouldn't itch so much, eye drops already in; and I was sitting there beside him praying over him what I (we) should do.  I don't want to have to rely on "Band-aid solutions" for the rest of his life, as the medical Dr. would do.  Trying things on my own has gotten some results, but not really fixed anything (it's made him more comfortable, but still sluggish).  So, again I was praying for direction.  More of a desperate plea to God to show me what to do or where to go.  Greg was in the kitchen when I was talking these thoughts out loud, and says, "why don't you take him to that Dr. my co-workers wife works for?"  Umm...no one told me that (at least I didn't recall him ever telling me that.)  So, after hearing a story from Greg how this co-worker of his was healed instantly, I decided to give this guy a call.  The story of the co-worker was this:  As a soldier in Afghanistan, this guy came home to the U.S. with sores all over his body.  After going from medical Dr. to Dr., no one was able to heal them.  He was given all kinds of creams and lotions, to no avail.  So, since he was still out of state, he finally called his old Naturopath in his hometown, who was able to diagnose him over the phone (scurvy) and give treatment (get some fresh citrus).  How simple that was, in yet it had been missed by "the experts".  He'd been living on MRE's in Afghanistan, thus didn't have any fresh fruit.

I made an appointment and we saw the Dr. about a month ago.  He asked a ton of questions (the appointment was 1 hour long) and then prescribed a treatment plan, which was a blend of whole food supplements and 1 homeopathic remedy.  I didn't notice much difference right away, in fact I noticed he got worse the first couple weeks (he was detoxing out the bad stuff that had accumulated over time).  We kept on giving the supplements as well as pushing fluids to flush out any yuckies and we are now noticing the benefits.  We had our second recheck this week, in which we stopped a couple supplements and added 1 more to focus on his needs at hand.  These last couple days we have a new boy!

James is now full (and overflowing) with energy.  His eyes are bright, rather than dull.  He's been chattering, singing, jumping and just excited all day these last 2 days.  When I asked him this morning how he was, he said, "Great!"  Me, "Why are you so great?"  Him, "Because I feel so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so (about 20+) good!"  He's been such a trooper swallowing the nasty pills he's had to.  He calls the pills Papa Bear, Mama Bear, Brother Bear and Sister Bear. We are so thankful that today as Greg and I were talking about the changes in him, we both had tears of joy in our eyes.  Our boy is getting better!

Then later in the evening when we were kind of worn out (as parents of 4 small children usually are come evening), and James (and the other kids) were still going strong; Greg said, "I think our new and improved James is going to give us a run for our money!"  Yep, I agree, but it's soooo worth it to see him feeling better, finally!  Thank you, dear Lord!!

Too many Becky's

I am writing this story down because not only do I find it funny, but it describes my Mom's family well.  I was telling it the other day to someone and was forgetting details, so thought I better write it down before I forget them all!

L-R (youngest to oldest) Julie, Phebe, Beth (Mom), Becky, Mary, Ruth Anne, Susie
This happened last fall when my Mom, came down to Washington for Isaac's birth.  She came in on the train and when she got here, Elise was quite confused.  Somehow she missed the information of which Grandma was coming (she thought it was the other Grandma from Arizona coming) and so kept asking, "when are we going to pick up Grandma?" even though we had already done so.  She thought we picked up Aunt Becky instead.  So, Grandma came to our house, and she got used to the idea that it wasn't Becky, but was in fact Grandma.  

Then the more confusion started.  After Isaac was born, some of my aunts began to come over to see him.  First Phebe showed up.  Elise answered the door and called out, "Becky is here!"  No, not Becky again.  Then Julie showed up later that day.  "Becky is here!"  No, not Becky again.  A few days later, the real Becky did come, and by this time Elise didn't even believe it was actually her, since she'd been let down 3 times already.   Becky is the aunt we see the most, so she's the one our kids are most familiar with.  And so at lunch we were telling Becky the story of how confused Elise had been, and were laughing at how much all the sisters do look alike.  When Luke was little, he thought that Grandma, Ruth Anne and Susie were all the same person!  (until he saw them all together, then he got really confused)

So, after the discussion about all the confusion, James piped up, "well, I think there's just too many Becky's!"  Yes, we agree, but we love them all and they are all such a blessing in our life!

(P.S.  There is also an older brother, Uncle Jimmy who was not present in this picture.  Another brother Steve was killed in Vietnam, and a sister Sara was hit by a car at age 3).